tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701606478391231933.post8933651598864044281..comments2014-02-24T09:23:51.766-06:00Comments on Brenda.Marin - Faithfully walking life's journey: Question/Comment - Gay Marriage; Perhaps Marriage in GeneralBrenda S. Marinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05663542722430973975noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701606478391231933.post-20266216444372440112012-04-08T18:53:11.643-05:002012-04-08T18:53:11.643-05:00What I don't get is why straight people can...What I don't get is why straight people can't face the reality that they are bigots, and that they stand in the way of lesbian and gay rights. Just accept this fact if you don't support equality in relationships. I'd rather have your honesty. Hey I'm not going to hate you, I assume most of the hetero people I meet are not gay friendly, or at best completely ignorant and out of it.<br /><br />So just accept it. If you are against the change in laws that give benefits to gays equal to those of straights, then yes, this is bigotry. We have a long history of straight white people doing nothing until "minorities" bust down the doors. Which side are you on? Be clear, be direct, so we can ally with the few straights who will stand up and be counted. Wobbling, hiding opinions, silence, it won't save you from the history books. Just think how embarassed all those southern whites looked in the photos attacking black children in 1957. Put your face in their, that is you now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701606478391231933.post-17153425981605779232012-04-05T16:29:04.672-05:002012-04-05T16:29:04.672-05:00P.S. I meant the comments as a general response to...P.S. I meant the comments as a general response to the woman who wrote in asking the questions about lesbian and gay marriage Brenda. Those that sit on the sidelines with no opinion will not be looking all that good 10 years from now. Just as all those white people who sat silently during the civil rights movement are not regarded well. Silence in the face of injustice is just as culpable, and there will be no hiding on this issue. --Turtle WomanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701606478391231933.post-645299436320049592012-04-05T16:26:48.983-05:002012-04-05T16:26:48.983-05:00That said, I think it is best to be honest as a st...That said, I think it is best to be honest as a straight person. If you don't support gay and lesbian equal rights, then just say so. I meet people like this all the time. I don't support hetero marriage, and I don't think lesbian marriage might be all that right for the lesbian community anyway. That is a complex argument too small for a blog post.<br />Accept the fact that if you were white and against integration, you were a bigot. If you oppose equal rights under the law for a whole class of people, that is bigotry. So accept this label, and be honest. In time, when you really get to know gays or lesbians well, you might see us differently. In the meantime, just deal.--Turtle WomanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701606478391231933.post-19704327599144727112012-04-05T16:23:30.249-05:002012-04-05T16:23:30.249-05:00It's true that within the lesbian and gay comm...It's true that within the lesbian and gay community, if you are a straight person speaking out against gay marriage, you will be regarded as a bigot. I myself actually oppose heterosexual marriage because it is patriarchal and it damages women. I oppose marriage because of its sordid history of the enslavement of women. That said, I think we'd all be better off if all benefits and rights were not tied to marriage at all. We need to make sure that people are treated equally under the law. I can't claim a head of household deduction on my taxes for my partner, even though she's been unable to work for years. Even my CPA gets upset at the injustice of this. --Turtle WomanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com